People don’t talk about this enough. It’s one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that’s way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that’s way too low. In either case you’re walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don’t say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.