So basically I understand that dating a black woman is different than a white woman. She mentioned she feels comfortable when someone is open to learn and takes initiative to learn the societal and cultural things that affect her as a black woman. I don’t know what this means. And the take initiative part confuses me. And I’m not sure how to go about it I’m very open minded to learn but should I probe with questions or more so reading about it myself?
I’d like this relationship to go somewhere (so far had 4 dates) but her telling me that felt deep and I want to make sure I take right steps
I know this goes without saying, but I’ll say it anyway. Dating someone of another race does not give you that race’s privileges.
Like, you don’t get to say the N-word, and you don’t really get to drop the fact that you’re dating a black person as a gotcha to win an argument.
You and her will have likely had some differences growing up. Learning about them is going to be a lot of fun and educational, so enjoy that process.
There is nothing fundamentally tragic about being a specific race, so don’t try to become some kind of savior.
Whatever they have experienced because of their race is normal for them so understand their normal and accept it as normal.
And don’t worry too much. If you’ve made it to the point where you’re actually dating, then she obviously likes you, at least a little bit.
So just rely on that and continue being who you are to the best of your ability.
Oh yeah I know not to say the n word and idc I’m dating a black woman. I’m not saying o don’t see race and want to understand her I mean I’m the type to see the person.
I’m just nervous and feel she might expect me to learn and talk to her about raxe
Well, if she does, just let her lead the conversation. It would be something that she wants to talk about, so hear her out. Maybe she will explain things the way that work best for her and make things easier for you in the process.