Yep, it’s the usual question
We’re very close, and we’re also getting to that age where everyone’s trying to settle in
I think she would be extremely sad if she stayed with me and if we didn’t have kids
But she also says that our relationship is the best she’s ever had and she only wants me
I hate work culture and I don’t want to work until I’m 80 because I have kids, it’s the biggest issue for me. I want to live as frugally as possible. In addition to that I have hobbies and I want my time spent on my hobbies and interests
I don’t know what I’m looking for by posting this, feel free to reply with anything relevant
They don’t sound like that to me. I gave up lots of things in the thirty years I’ve been with my wife. Not because I am with her, but because I outgrew some things, life happened or whatever. I agree with the person you’re replying to, deciding to have kids is great in hindsight.
That’s a good point. You give up things by being in a relationship but gain other things. Who could possibly know how you’re going to find being a parent… what kind of bond you’ll form. Whether your partner will be a good parent etc without going through it.
If you’re lucky you get to make the decision either way, and don’t have it made for you.
Which is also a good point, if you don’t make a decision, someone will make it for you.