Being an anecdotal case with extenuating circumstances does not invalidate the criticism of an overall societal trend.
You are not being an absentee father. You are actively trying to be a part of your children’s lives. This trend does not describe you.
It is best not to borrow offense when it isn’t aimed in your direction. It’s better overall for your mental health and allows you to understand better other points of veiw without unnecessarily feeling attacked.
The irony of this is, “single mother” aims no offense at anyone, and you’re advocating for an objectively offensive term take its place.
Let’s go over what constitutes a “child of an absentee father”:
dead father
deported father
incarcerated father
abused father
And that’s just the generalized ones.
Gee, I wonder why we simply use “single parent/mother/father”… maybe because it describes the situation most succinctly, and with as little offensiveness as possible? Couldn’t be! It must be the patriarchy!
Fuck all that. I spent thousands on a lawyer just to get my kids 3-months a year. I’ve spent 10’s of thousands on child support. And I’m the problem?
Ikr? I had to fight tooth and just so I didn’t have to see my son in front of a government official.
Why? Because she was pissed at me for going to my exam during university.
Being an anecdotal case with extenuating circumstances does not invalidate the criticism of an overall societal trend.
You are not being an absentee father. You are actively trying to be a part of your children’s lives. This trend does not describe you.
It is best not to borrow offense when it isn’t aimed in your direction. It’s better overall for your mental health and allows you to understand better other points of veiw without unnecessarily feeling attacked.
The irony of this is, “single mother” aims no offense at anyone, and you’re advocating for an objectively offensive term take its place.
Let’s go over what constitutes a “child of an absentee father”:
And that’s just the generalized ones.
Gee, I wonder why we simply use “single parent/mother/father”… maybe because it describes the situation most succinctly, and with as little offensiveness as possible? Couldn’t be! It must be the patriarchy!
“Unnecessarily”? The post attacks them by conflating single mothers with absentee fathers and actively blames the fathers