NIXos is a cross-platform package manager for Unix-like systems, and a tool to instantiate and manage those systems, invented in 2003[6] by Eelco Dolstra.

Nix Original author(s) Eelco Dolstra Initial release June 15, 2003; 22 years ago

From Wikipedia.

Its been supported since the early 2000s.

LOL

Damn I need to power off. I’m like how does anyone write in their BIOS? I’m pretty sure it’s just settings. 😅

Tailscale the end.

Highly accurate for her. This is how she is.

Here’s the beauty. You can self host it. They give you the option to choose your method. You don’t have to pay they offer free accounts.

I checked them both out and shared them. Thank you. These things are great. These techniques and tools people are suggesting are what I was looking for. Any other advice or suggestions let me know.

Look I love fully offline concepts just as much as the next person. But what Bitwarden offers me that those other solutions don’t, is to offload some of the mental load long-term. I like privacy but something are exhausting. Pick and choose your battles.

Less hands on maintenance and mental overhead to keep things synced and all services / files up to date. We bitwarden users have other stuff to do. Different priorities.

This is one of the things I decided to keep to the people who do this far more and deeper than I ever could. Their job. Their liability.

All my accounts are encrypted, cloud accessible, or offline accessible. Protected by a giant hash of a master password. It allows me to feel safe and provides the convenience of copy and pasting insane credentials needed in today’s times. Hassle free. Great features. The end.

*potentially even under free account if you choose.

I agree to some degree but chill is not me and she’s chill I guess but not in the casual way just in the silent shy way. Thanks for your input though

I’m ADHD haha and so I got issues too explaining things just in a different way.

The last paragraph sounds like her she will go quiet unless you keep poking at an issue then she will talk but be extra moody. She’s totally normal day to day and not super autistic it’s mild. Another commenter said to try a mood wheel. They sent a few examples and I saved them to try to send to her as a tool in the bag. That’s the type of ideas I was looking for.

Perhaps that was way over stated. All our interactions are not negative but for the sake of the post I was focusing on those aspects to find tools to improve myself and her to communicate more effectively.

In no way shape or form are our interactions as basic as that sounded. We function almost entirely normal. Do normal activities, go places, hangout, work and hobbies. When I meant basic interaction I don’t mean she sits on bench and cannot function. I just meant anything outside of typical day to day like intricate displays of emotion or communication about our relationship issues is where the wall hits. Its not trust. Or as dead sounding as that seemed. Its that she lacks ways to articulate her emotions and what to say.

I’m very fast paces mentally And physically. I’m ADHD through and through so going slow and feeling tired is not in my mindset. She takes forever, can’t talk deeply, has trouble mentally in all aspects. I’m more like a racecar and she’s like a turtle. Nothing is wrong with that. We have good chemistry. But it’s not easy past the chemistry stage. Because our childhoods, adult mentality are so different.

Edit: We are very open, direct. We plan sexual activities, we plan almost all activities. But anything past basic conversations gets lost in translation for her. I’m very supportive, we both are for each other. The dynamic is good. Just the communication sucks no matter how much we try. Consistency is her flaw, depth. I am the doer. I do, plan, almost everything. She’s more idle, watch, hands off plans and couldn’t make a decision on where to eat if she tried. Shed starve to death. Highly indecisive.

This is a good idea. This is exactly the type of tool I was looking for. Any other good suggestions? Methods I can improve on. Thanks! I will try these and see which she likes.

This sounds like it. She has major issues with emotions. Outwardly appearing normal but inside she’s got no clue when to make faces, describe things. Hmm. But even knowing the problem doesn’t help, whether this is the clinical term or not. Doesn’t help the functioning aspect. How can we improve her ability? How can I improve mine?

A dairy is good tool. This is what I was looking for. More tools. Ideas on how, mediums to express herself when she can’t form the words. She talks fine. Functions near a normal person. But mentally she’s very closed off.

She’s apple, I am android. I am fast and ADHD she is slow and autistic. We are wildly different but the chemistry is very attractive. We jive good together. It’s just the communication aspect from her, keeping to timelines and schedules. She has no ability to. Communicate her thought and emotions. They just boil out to negative emotions after things get held inside for a long time unaddressed. So I am looking for ways to try to reinforce good behaviors and tools to help her ease into explaining herself and being open mentally. For me it’s easy, you feel some type of way, you talk about it. I’m intricate even. But she’s basic and you gain no real value from it. It’s like our communication of relationship is one sided with me doing all the talking and her never inputing. We try. She wants to. But can’t explain. Doesn’t know how. Doesn’t understand. So we repeat the same mistakes.

Edit. I will. Look into NVC apps any reccs?

We do all this. We are direct. She has trouble finding the words, or has no clue what to say. I was trying to find tools, resources, and ideas how to empower her to communicate. She wants to talk. Wants to tell me things. But when it’s time to talk or tell me she has no ability to. Not physically she can talk fine. Emotionally and mentally. It’s like a barrier between her brain and communication normal. With words. Like we all do.

We are very open, talk directly, even for long times. She severely struggles to explain deep emotions or feelings. She has no real methods to communicate that work, which is what I am trying to find tools or methods.

We tried writing letters, we have tries texting or calling, but she ends up getting frustrated And upset because she doesn’t know HOW to explain her feelings. She defaults to IDK And I just don’t know followed by emotional rollercoaster.

She will say that she wants to understand, wants to talk but does not understand her own feelings and thoughts to even know how to respond or what to say. So we always just wind up in a stalemate emotionally and move on using it sort of like a venting session. We basically seem to agree we feel the same emotions but the communication between us is hard due to her inability to express it.

Edit: So I was asking for tools to use. Methods to try. Anything at all to attempt to gain insight into her. How can we grow and talk if she is incapable of explaining anything even basic emotions and feelings. WHAT can I do to help her understand how she feels and most importantly HOW to express it?