Angel Mountain

I am obviously using Linux already, I am on Lemmy, what else would you expect 😉

I understand this makes you unsure, but I really think this would be a perfectly normal question to him: “Hey, I really enjoy your company, but I have noticed in the past with other Japanese friends that they sometimes have mistaken a hug for me asking for more. How do you see that?”

Especially with him being an older guy (which generally means a bit less insecure and more mature) I would expect this to be a good start for an honest conversation.

I hope it does work out the way you want!

Might sound like a crazy take, but if you just make sure you (only) do what you want and are clear about your intentions towards him, you should be fine.

If you want to have a drink from some casual company until you leave - do that.

If you want some steamy sexy time for one night and then leave - again, do that.

If you really like the guy and might actually consider some sort of longer relationship - guess what, do that.

Just be clear and honest, towards him and yourself. That way he can decide what he wants from you.

And as all engineers know: assumption is the mother of all f*ck-ups, so avoid those at all cost.

I am in a relationship, but also lonely. I would like someone to share relationship-problems with for when they occur every once in a while. But it’s hard.

Don’t believe all the crap you see on TikTok and talk to actual people about their problems. Please.

Good to see he was not left alone.

She’s right, much better to disallow cars in the entire street

Eat with the right, touch anus with the left and always wash hands before you eat. Developed cultures have done this for ages. And they have clean bumholes because they wash instead of only smearing with toilet paper. That shit is disgusting.

Washing can also help against the itchiness. As well as non-synthetic underwear. If those don’t help, do indeed see a doctor.

Went sailing for a day without any shirt on. Worst sunburn ever. Luckily we had to practice for a musical at school where we would put our arms around eachother at some point, i skipped that part for a bit.

In the Netherlands there is a special class of ebikes we call “Speed pedelec”. They are made to go 45kph, but you still pedal. Might be very nice for your commute?

Most important thing though is to try to unite with neighbours and ask for local politics for save infrastructure. In the Netherlands we have the concept of “polderen” for this: you don’t make it an all-or-nothing thing, just try to make it good enough for both worlds. If people want to drive, we give them good roads to drive on, which might be a little bit less wide and straight than you’re used to, but we also have great cycling infrastructure for the people that don’t. Having options is real, actual freedom. Everybody needs to give a little to gain a lot though. That’s polderen. Every person using a bike is another one not driving a car, so more space on the road for people that do want to drive.

Is there a difference between the two different entrances?

Should not be necessary; anyone should be able to get the healthcare they need. But still very happy for him and lots of respect for the club.

I met my partner on an app relatively recently and would not have met them otherwise. It can be a way to meet interesting people that you would not easily come across otherwise.

But, there are some caveats.

I would recommend trying a few and finding one that fits your interests/people in your area actually use.

Also investigate what the apps do with your data. You are sharing some very personal/sensitive data with them. Make sure they take good care of it.

Some apps seem to be pay-to-win. Do keep that in mind. Also, do keep in mind you are in the minority as a guy. Don’t feel discouraged if it takes a long time to get any matches. I notice I can get somewhat addicted to scrolling through the apps and get discouraged when no one seems to like me. If that’s the case make sure to not open the app for a while and go outside.

I personally think Feeld is one of the least bad ones, because it is great for different kinds of relationships and that fits me well, as well as they seem to take somewhat value my privacy and data. I also tend to pay for apps I actually use, because when the product is free, I am the product. Remember these companies have costs as well.

Still, nothing beats starting conversations with people in real life. Just be friendly, open, interested and don’t expect anything from the other party straight away.

You’ll be fine!

My partner introduced me to the Dutch “112” app (112 is the emergency telephone number in Europe).

I hope I never need it of course, but if I do it automatically shares my location and it allows me to chat instead of call if I would be in a situation that requires that.

Also, I really enjoy Jepster as my biking computer when cycling. The guy that built it is also very approachable when you find a problem, which is great.

And when you’re planning to get kids have a look at “Kinder”…

I’m using pcloud because proton still doesn’t have a way to share folders with other users, so I can’t share my holiday photos with my partner there.

Pcloud works fine. The online interface is not the nicest, but it works.