Hey!!

I remember seeing your last post, your style is super cool :3

These are very pretty pictures, you look good in all of them!

It looks really good! That queer event sounds pretty cool.

Woah I love your outfit!

Hey, I just said you ARE feminine, and while I don’t know you personally, from what I do know you are very kind. Also you deserve to use whatever pronouns you damn want.

I recommend going out more, staying inside is safe but doesn’t help you get better, if you can get someone you trust to help you get out more that’s even better.

Plus you’re right, people don’t usually gender others in public, which is why I asked the question, since you can’t assume what people are thinking about you, before I even knew I was trans, so no makeup or anything, I had people look me dead in the eyes and ask me if I was a guy or a girl, while people behind or side-on used to gender me as a woman (because I had long hair, just like you), and to this day I still think I don’t pass!

I think you’re also underselling how many times you’ve been gendered correctly, that number seems inaccurate, the people on here alone push that up a lot, and I’m sure your boyfriend genders you correctly right?

Is the misgendering random? I have a hard time believing someone looks at you for the first time and does that, it’s pretty clear you’re a woman. People who know you are less likely to gender you based on appearance and instead just because they’ve known you before or during transition, and people who gender you based on legal paper suck.

Lastly don’t apologise, I want to see you happy, seeing you sad makes me sad, and no, that doesn’t mean keep this to yourself, tell someone (even if that’s just us) <3

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel what you feel at times, being trans is really hard.

But I really truly hope you can get out of this pit. I promise you, you are very pretty. Also, most people are not that evil, and a lot of people probably see you as a woman, how often do you actually get gendered in public? If I can get gendered correctly by strangers, you sure as hell can, and even if you don’t (which I fail to believe is true), that’s their problem. Also also, you can’t steal oxygen from anybody, and even if you could, you sure as hell deserve to live more than some people, just take a look at the most evil people alive today (you know what I mean), if they are still living you have no excuse, you deserve to outlive them. You are not a monster, you are a super kind-hearted, very feminine girl, and I am not exaggerating when I say that.

I wish I could give you a really big hug, but I can’t (probably, I don’t know). Please promise me you’ll find some people you can confide in, turn up to a social event or something where you’ll know there will be other trans people, I know it’s hard but PLEASE don’t stay isolated.

Nope, I know that’s kinda weird but I never really went shopping for clothes at all up until now, my wardrobe is still pretty bad, I mean those jeans in the post I made are like the only ones that fit me and I just bought them the day prior to that lmao.

I’ll probably go clothes shopping at some point because I’m about to start my second year of university.

You’ve got this, girl!

wow so pretty, and your sense of style is very good! (also I’ll add to everybody else, your smile is definitely the cutest)

I honestly haven’t been thrifting yet so that’s something I have to do.

Thank you <3

Pride was quite fun, it was cool to see so many queer people in the same place.

you are both very cute :3

Thank you!

thank youu <3

Congrats on the egg cracking, I’m glad everything is going well for you!

Your outfit is very cool :3

uh oh.

tysm <3

I’m happy things are going well for you!

I literally just went to Leicester pride (my first pride event)! We skipped the parade and just did the festival, it was a little underwhelming but I was just happy being there. Lots of very cool people, apparently somebody said I passed, although I don’t really believe them, and my camera definately doesn’t agree, not even with what I see in the mirror. I still might post a picture if I can get a good one.

I think I would break if I was treated like that, in a good way.

(also I just want to say I always love your posts, especially your art, it’s always so comfy!)

I always appreciate posts like this, it makes me feel like I can actually do this one day! Even then it’s very nice to see people find their way and become happier.

Y’all are very pretty, and loose hair does look good on you (at least I think so). I feel you on the eyebrows, one of these days I’m going to shape them, they might even be one of the few things stopping me from passing.

Thank y’all and everyone else who continues to post on here <3

I was more sympathising with the poster, but yeah that’s about it.

I’m not gonna engage mentally with anything from .ml since from experience it really isn’t worth it. Taking a wander on .ml was pretty much the most confusing thing I’ve ever experienced when I first tried out lemmy, I mean their ukraine community is all you need to see, really is kind of another level of closed off from reality. Either you’re out of the loop or you agree with them, but .ml being based around a (relatively) singular unquestioning belief system isn’t healthy.