

I’m a married person and I had a few reasons. First and foremost was the feelings-based subjectivity of absolutely adoring my long-term girlfriend who was also my best friend. I wanted to be there for her for as long as we’re both around and I wanted her to trust that I would be there for her. She felt the same way and wanted to demonstrate that she was all in, which was just as important. For a lot of people (if you look at the divorce statistics), marriage doesn’t offer peace of mind. For us, it did. This has everything to do with our temperament, how we are with one another, and the things in life that we want, and what makes us worry about the future. I had a lot of options, but I certainly wouldn’t have married anybody else that I’d met.
We also have careers that could involve moving to another region from time to time. There’s a significant cost to walking away from a job to be with your partner, so being on the same page about the long-term nature of the relationship is an important part of the decisionmaking process. Health insurance/other benefits is a small but significant thing. It wasn’t a factor in our initial decision to marry, but marriage makes it easier to share some things depending on where you live and what type of people are running your government. For me personally, it also made it easier to wrap my head around estate planning, life insurance, and stuff like that.
A minor note based on post-marriage experience: The wedding ring is a decent weirdo-repellent. It isn’t foolproof, but it cuts down on some of the social nonsense that single people have to handle. If that interests you, you could just stay single and wear a ring.






This is the biggest problem that I have with the Windows ‘Just download the program from the internet’ mentality. All that it takes is one brief moment when you let your guard down and everything falls apart. On top of that, modern search engines seem to be very happy to show bogus results as prominently as possible. Package managers aren’t perfect, but they’re a big step in the right direction. When I have to use Windows outside of a corporate or managed setting, I use something like Chocolatey.