I got a pair of oakleys second hand with some bold colors and put purple lenses in them. Guideline being, if the conservative dads would think you’re dressing queer, you’re doing it right!

I’m traveling outside the US. Got a decent price on the flights too

Eh, “perfect” is relative. There’s still plenty of weird little spots on that Pangolin’s scales

Do be careful with friends with BPD/borderline. It can be tough so take care of yourself too!

Sometimes people just want to hear their feelings validated and reflected back. You could try “that sounds hard, how do you feel about it?” But only if you have the energy for it and you want to!

This is tricky. You aren’t responsible for doing much here besides listening and giving whatever encouragement or support you feel is appropriate. I like to ask my friends if they put themselves down, “hey don’t talk about my friends like that!” It sometimes works. I also believe that skill in many fields is built up slowly and consistently over time, so I would consider asking her which skill she’s trying to develop right now and what she’s doing about it today. HTH

San Diego… I’m saying a burrito and a Modelo

At this point I’m down for either daylight time or standard time as long as we stop changing back and forth!