That’s definitely more reasonable, albeit dull for someone nonreligious. Maybe OP was exaggerating or it was just an extreme case.

As someone who hasn’t gone to mass in forty years, how long is it usually? I imagine a hundred and fifty people taking communion would take a long time just by itself.

If you are inviting people to them then I see them as one in the same. If you just need witnesses you can bring some when you meet with the priest and not force a hundred people to go to mass for three hours for your own fancy. I think that is selfish.

I guess I just disagree with that idea. I feel like it should a shared experience. I definitely thought about making it fun for my friends and family when I got married. I wanted them to celebrate with me, not at me.

But you can absolutely have a Catholic wedding without mass or communion. I’ve been to plenty of them. Sure, no one is making you go but you’d look like a dick if that was the reason why you didn’t. And sure, it’s their “special day” but obviously they want to share that day with friends and family, otherwise they wouldn’t be having a wedding. To put people through some bullshit like this is just selfish and inconsiderate imo.

If there is no meat at a vegetarian’s wedding there is still food. My brother had no alcohol at his reception but there was still a party. It was still fun to be a part of it. Forcing people to sit through three hours of church if they want to be at your wedding is inconsiderate.

Dancer in the Dark

Ugh why do people do that? It’s even worse when you are kid who was raised irreligious. Do they think everyone they know is Catholic?

I’m almost got mad until i saw what community i was in

Are you telling me someone on Lemmy has experience in not pooping for three days? Why didn’t you speak up before?!