• sangriaferret@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    But you can absolutely have a Catholic wedding without mass or communion. I’ve been to plenty of them. Sure, no one is making you go but you’d look like a dick if that was the reason why you didn’t. And sure, it’s their “special day” but obviously they want to share that day with friends and family, otherwise they wouldn’t be having a wedding. To put people through some bullshit like this is just selfish and inconsiderate imo.

    If there is no meat at a vegetarian’s wedding there is still food. My brother had no alcohol at his reception but there was still a party. It was still fun to be a part of it. Forcing people to sit through three hours of church if they want to be at your wedding is inconsiderate.

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        24 hours ago

        Yeah, my wife is Catholic; we had two options for wedding. The 1 hour ceremony, or the 40 minute ceremony (I think the difference is serving communion). That was it. I don’t think we could have gotten a 3 hour ceremony even if we’d wanted it; they need the church for other things.

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        1 day ago

        As someone who hasn’t gone to mass in forty years, how long is it usually? I imagine a hundred and fifty people taking communion would take a long time just by itself.

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          I mean where I live it’s around 1 hour. Chrismtas and easter can go up to 1,5hr just because of the added stuff. But yeah even wedding mass is usually around 1 hour. Depends on the person holding it.

          I alao juat remembered I have been to a couple catholic and orthodox wedding masses. All were about 1hr long.

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      Why do you care so much about people you think are dicks thinking you’re a dick? Just don’t go. If you care about their opinion, talk with them. Otherwise it seems you’re not overly fond of them, and they’d probably not miss you.