• MiddleWeigh@lemmy.world
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    3 years ago

    It was weird for me when I was finally older than my parents when they had me, and I was still a barely functioning human being. Props to you, mom and dad. You did the best you could and I appreciate that you brought me into this world (most days).

  • executive_chicken@lemmy.world
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    3 years ago

    The worst thing is growing up and seeing them less and less to the point where once you do end up seeing them, they look WAY older than your mental image of them. Cherish your parents while you have them

    • 70ms@lemmy.world
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      3 years ago

      My mom will be 89 in a couple of months and it’s so hard to watch her get so frail when her mind is still so sharp. I recently started recording her stories, like how she became a Univac programmer in the 60’s. I cherish every minute because I hear the clock ticking and it’s SO loud and never goes away. I’m going to miss my mom so much. It’s like my heart’s already breaking under the weight of losing her.

      • bfr0@lemmy.world
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        3 years ago

        Sounds like you’re kind of grieving in advance, which is natural and healthy so long as you channel it into something constructive like you are.

        Everyone’s parents will leave, yours is the best case scenario.

  • unwinagainstable@lemmy.world
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    3 years ago

    It’s hitting me kind of hard watching my folks in their mid-60s. Their health is starting to slip a little bit in small but noticeable ways. I never really saw it until recently

    • stiephel@lemmy.world
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      3 years ago

      I definitely started to see my parents decline in my early 20s. They’re still going, but age is coming for them fast.

      • intensely_human@lemm.ee
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        3 years ago

        Even when my mother was in a hospital bed we’d brought into the house, thin like a toothpick, I was still wondering what her odds of survival were. It’s so easy to be in denial. Then one moment she just stopped breathing and that was it.