Difficulty: a sizeable proportion of neurotypical people find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if it seems like something that an adult should be able to figure out for themselves.
As a consequence of this, they’re also not comfortable explaining things that they consider obvious, because they feel like they’re being rude themselves, and may even consider requests for such explanations to be confrontational.
Yeah, I’m not too worried personally. I’ve encountered people who felt belittled, or maybe even infantilized, by having things explained to them. I think, ultimately, it comes down to understanding each individual’s personality and how they respond to information. As well as not being rude or disrespectful, of course.
I fixed this issue by being stupid and forgetful, so I never feel insulted if someone explains something I should know. In fact, I just assume I have wrong / incomplete / partially forgotten information even for the things I know I know, just in case.
I am also stubborn so I will, in most cases, learn enough to fix my issue or be knowledgeable enough to recognise an expert that can fix it for me or help me through.
Difficulty: a sizeable proportion of neurotypical people find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if it seems like something that an adult should be able to figure out for themselves.
As a consequence of this, they’re also not comfortable explaining things that they consider obvious, because they feel like they’re being rude themselves, and may even consider requests for such explanations to be confrontational.
Yeah I know, we suck
Are fucking dumb, yes.
Yeah, I’m not too worried personally. I’ve encountered people who felt belittled, or maybe even infantilized, by having things explained to them. I think, ultimately, it comes down to understanding each individual’s personality and how they respond to information. As well as not being rude or disrespectful, of course.
I fixed this issue by being stupid and forgetful, so I never feel insulted if someone explains something I should know. In fact, I just assume I have wrong / incomplete / partially forgotten information even for the things I know I know, just in case.
I am also stubborn so I will, in most cases, learn enough to fix my issue or be knowledgeable enough to recognise an expert that can fix it for me or help me through.
Or maybe I’m just autistic and coping.