The adult responsibilities need to be shared fairly. If someone is a stay at home partner, they should get more house chores to compensate for the working person. Otherwise the working person gets saddled with work, childcare and house chores and no time for themselves.
This arrangement generally does not acknowledge that caring for children is work.
Oh you’re “staying home with the kids” all day? You should be the full time maid and cook to make up for that. And obviously be my unpaid therapist as well because well, emotional labor doesn’t count either!
That’s fair, but then I know a few couples with one breadwinner and children in school or no children but the partner with no job expects the chores to be split 50/50.
To me, hours worked counts for hours of chores. So a partner without a job and no kids to watch better be doing 40-50 hours of chores a week before wanting to see the working partner do anything around the house.
Also, once the person who works outside the home comes home are they expected to take over the childcare completely while the other relaxes or is it split evenly when home? Working all day and ignoring things when getting home is bad when the other continues their work into the evening and the reverse is as well.
The main thing is that over the course of a day their contributions are balanced out.
The adult responsibilities need to be shared fairly. If someone is a stay at home partner, they should get more house chores to compensate for the working person. Otherwise the working person gets saddled with work, childcare and house chores and no time for themselves.
This arrangement generally does not acknowledge that caring for children is work.
Oh you’re “staying home with the kids” all day? You should be the full time maid and cook to make up for that. And obviously be my unpaid therapist as well because well, emotional labor doesn’t count either!
That’s fair, but then I know a few couples with one breadwinner and children in school or no children but the partner with no job expects the chores to be split 50/50.
To me, hours worked counts for hours of chores. So a partner without a job and no kids to watch better be doing 40-50 hours of chores a week before wanting to see the working partner do anything around the house.
I’d take that deal to never have to go to work again.
And if the kids are in daycare for 8 hours a day? You got any kids? Because I do.
Also, once the person who works outside the home comes home are they expected to take over the childcare completely while the other relaxes or is it split evenly when home? Working all day and ignoring things when getting home is bad when the other continues their work into the evening and the reverse is as well.
The main thing is that over the course of a day their contributions are balanced out.
how? Since I specifically put :