Right?! I had a roommate who would never rinse their toothbrush. I think. I have no idea what else would cause the kind of gross buildup I saw on it, so I think they just put toothpaste on it, brushed then put it back down. The bristles were all crusty and split and there was discoloration on the handle I’d never seen before or since. I wouldn’t want to share with them. They were otherwise pretty hygienic, but I’d rather not brush for a day than use theirs.

I don’t think religion and faith “are the problem.” But if I’m honest, I think they’re at least a little problematic. I think anything that encourages anti scientific beliefs or principles isn’t “good” for society. I don’t know I’d go so far to say it’s “dangerous”. I think anything that allows people to create in groups and out groups is not helpful, even if it does not overtly preach harming the out group. Any time spent bonding over religion or in religious community could be spent bonding over something more practical. I know a lot of people have found help through religion, but I can’t help but think how much better off we would be if instead of finding that sense of community within a religion we found it within our actual community. Instead of a constancy in a higher power, we found it and built it up within ourselves. Maybe there is no way to frame society so that people look within themselves and their community for strength they seek a higher power for, but I believe that as long as religion exists we will never know.

I don’t think talking about a thing that goes against any individual religion should be considered protecting religion. If my religion teaches vegetarianism, can I opt out of any books where a character eats meat or hunts? Can I be exempt from learning about early humans or the food chain because it involves learning about their diet? The answer is now yes, and I think it does a huge disservice to children. Reading a book about a gay couple is not forcing you to be gay or even support homosexual relationships. It’s just showing you that gay people exist and that’s legal and some gay people have families and are happy. You can think it’s morally wrong, but it’s happening and it’s the schools job to educate children on things that are happening. I know people who were removed when evolution was discussed. They’re no longer religious, but they have this gap in understanding they now have to fill in because their parents didn’t want them to know the science. I think that’s terrible and does not help, but I support that more than the book thing because at least you can argue testing a child about evolution forces them to say things they don’t believe in whereas just reading or hearing about gay people doesn’t make you do anything.

You misunderstood. She’s focused on affordability for herself. How is she going to afford things if she can’t get kickbacks from corpos and the rich for keeping taxes low?

Their comment is basically “we logged the whole forest and sold lumber for profit, now don’t you feel stupid for not doing it when trees still existed?!” Most anti crypto people are more sad that crypto exists than upset that they didn’t cash out big. A fascist government saying that everyone who engaged in ruining the forest was right isn’t going to change how people actually feel about the fact the forest is now gone.

People like that would rather be “right” than good, and will side with whoever is declaring them “right”.

Maybe by now I’ve just steered clear of enough people on Lemmy that I’m actually seeing these comments, and maybe you were here the whole time, but there has been a noticeable (to me) increase in real allyship from men on here. Just want to let you know it’s greatly appreciated. If you didn’t comment this, chances are a woman would have and the backlash would have been worse. This comment 100% “gets it” and is what solidarity looks like. I was reading a post recently by a woman who is giving up on lemmy because of the rampant misogyny, and I have felt the same at times, but comments like this make me feel so much better about staying.

It’s unfortunate that people can’t exchange lived experiences, because so much of empathy and understanding is locked behind that. For what it’s worth, I believe most men replying here really just want to be given a chance and have their effort recognized, but their comments show a lack of understanding that’s hard to get at.

I was seeing a guy who had “all the right opinions” and we were in a situation where we were going to have to interact with someone who sexually assaulted children. I informed him ahead of time and was as clear as to the nature of this person. My boyfriend talked a big game about how he was going to refuse to engage with such an awful person etc etc. After they met, on our ride back from the event he asked if I could go into detail about the sexual assault this person allegedly did because after meeting him my partner was sure that it was just some kind of misunderstanding. He was sure he could just tell this guy was so nice and would never do such a thing. They got along great. How do you explain to someone that “just asking questions” or “wanting to know the facts” is not the right response, especially only AFTER meeting someone. This kind of interaction feels similar to me because on its own it’s understandable to not want to be lumped in with musk, it’s understandable to want to know all the facts, but in context the pushback is the problem.

My comment is getting a bit off topic, so just generally thank you for being in the comments saying this. It’s refreshing to see it and it’s greatly appreciated.

I’m not religious, but I understand that a wedding is very important in some religions. Catholics for example consider it a sacrament. It’s not about their guests, it’s about the couple and if religion is important to them they should be able to have that included. You can just not go if you don’t want to. It’s about supporting them and their journey together. It’s not about the attendees being religious.

It’d be like going to a vegetarians wedding and being upset they didn’t offer meat dishes. It’s their wedding and their views. If there’s any day where they should be able to subject people to them (for lack of a better phrase) it’s their wedding day.

I don’t use these services, but out of curiosity how has that gone for you? To and from the airport where you can give a heads up of at least a few days makes sense to me, but I always figured part of the allure was flexible scheduling and the location algorithm. I can’t imagine a driver would want to give their information out and possibly get a call at like 2 am to do a pickup somewhere they aren’t close to. Do they give you their general schedule and service area? Do you have a long list or do you just pay 1 or 2 well enough that they will make the trip even if they’re not actually working at that time?

Your comment shows either a very limited knowledge of queer identities or potentially large regional differences in the younger gens, because agender, bigender, and gender nonconforming people make up more of younger gens than they do older gens. So many young men are getting into makeup, nail polish, and wearing dresses and skirts. Way more than the older gens.

I’m a gender abolitionist, but your comment is either misguided or outright false.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9380989/

“Boomers+ and Generation X groups were more likely to identify as trans women compared to the younger generational cohorts, who were more varied in their identities.”

Are you a woman? It might also be something that developed during very young gen X/millennial generation, because it was at that point I believe the band shirt trend escaped the “die hard fan” category into just general audience category. Maybe it’s location based, or appearance based. If you don’t “look the part” whatever that means to the person, you’re a suspected “poser.”

I’m younger than you and am a woman and can confirm this has happened to me on multiple occasions. I had an ex that liked band merch and I often wore their clothes out when I stayed over and just kinda kept them because they looked cool. I was generally happy to say I didn’t know the band, but it happened enough times that I started telling people I got the merch off a corpse. It was generally a left field enough response that they didn’t try to continue speaking to me. I can’t remember the number of times it happened but it was enough to prompt me to change my response from “it’s my boyfriends” to something to make the conversation stop.

I get it, but also, women’s interests have always been othered and viewed as lesser. Unabashedly enjoying feminine coded things and rejecting the stigma associated is kinda revolutionary. It is feminist to say “yes, I like pumpkin spice, so what?” Women need to stop looking down on other women. Is a live laugh love sign my style? Not really, but neither is yellow shag carpet in the bathroom and that was popular enough for a time. Wanting reminders of love throughout your house is not a bad thing. These women, like most other women, are just trying their best. Let’s try to give them some grace.