cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790

does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I’m fine.

    • nanoswarm9k@lemmus.orgEnglish
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      7 days ago

      Looking forward to better diagnostic tools for Relational 'TSDs than sorting pink blankets into Borderline and blue blankets into anger issues/not needing healthcare. The academics are working but we’ll have to chemo the fascism to get grant money going to human services again lol

    • Zgierwoj@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      7 days ago

      As someone who had a few contradictory opininions from different doctors, one of which being BPD, it does sound a bit like something similar to what I sometimes experience, both easily getting to obsess over someone and to “forget” and to have to force myself to care later

      I would recommend professional help to OP, even tho I am somewhat skeptical of psychiatry myself (in the “its a new science and not rigorously measurable way”). It’s not your friend’s/partner’s/etc. job to fix ya, and I myself ended up wanting to punish people for caring about me, that shit can break ya really suddenly, don’t ignore early signs