• sunsoaked_lily@lemmy.zip
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    1 month ago

    She attacked me

    no she didn’t. you are having a conversation on the internet.

    She delusionally tried to lump me in with her oppressors just because I used the word “ideal,” for fuck’s sake!

    no she didn’t. she said that you were framing a lack of transphobia as an ideal rather than a floor by using the word ideal.

    I used “ideal” as in “better than the alternative”

    no you didn’t. you couldn’t have. ideal doesn’t mean that.

    I am really getting sick and tired of being libeled like this. I am the furthest thing from a goddamn MRA!

    no one called you an mra. i pointed out that you were using an mra dog whistle.

    You’re the one who brought [gender] into it.

    gender isn’t some vampire that’s only relevant to the conversation once someone invites it in, it is a societal force that we live within. it is always relevant. this is basic feminism.

    Self-defense is not tone-policing!

    this is not self defense because you are not being attacked. you are having a conversation on the internet.

    Do you realize that, by being incredibly accusatory and hostile to people who are trying to be your allies, you’re only making the worst outcome for yourself more likely? Don’t blame this shit on me!

    this is tone policing and victim blaming.

    attacked

    delusional

    abuse

    self-defense

    bully

    attacked

    it seems like you aren’t differentiating between what someone says about your ideas and what they say about you. it also seems like you aren’t differentiating between feeling attacked and being attacked.

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      no one called you an mra. i pointed out that you were using an mra dog whistle.

      You can’t use a dog whistle unless you know it is one. You didn’t say “writing something that resembles a dog whistle,” you said “using” it, which implies intent and is therefore an accusations of being in that group.

      it seems like you aren’t differentiating between what someone says about your ideas and what they say about you.

      No, that’s the entirety of what I’m doing. In reality, I was scrupulously careful only to address the argument, not the person, while you’re insinuating all sorts of heinous lies about me. Fuck off with your DARVO bullshit!