I’m going to put this meme in a safe place.
Hey, now. We know exactly where it is in our mind palaces, but the key to that room has grown legs. It’ll turn up, and then so will said thing. Checkmate. 💁🏼♂️
everything has its place
I gotta say, this has not been my experience. “I’m putting this in a safe spot” means there’s a coinflip’s chance it’s in one of the standard spots and we can find it again.
It’s when they don’t make a conscious and deliberate effort to put something away that it gets ethered. Can’t count the number of times my partner has lost her cell phone, her keys, her purse, her wallet, her shoes, her bicycle, her car… because she was just going through life doing her thing. Under a blanket. In a cabinet. In the refrigerator. In the trash.
I was apoplectic when she took the bus home from work, having not bothered to clock that she’d driven there. “Wait, why is there only one car in the garage?” “Oh, haha! I knew I was forgetting something. I’ll call an Uber.”
mega-sigh
I can’t remember where the important thing is because I have a huge mental map of all the things that might come in handy one day…
Nah, for me if it is moved without my knowledge or put away where I’m not aware of, I’ll never find it again because i find stuff by looking back at memories of where I remember I last saw it. Most of the time when i couldn’t find something i was certain i should know where it was, was because my ex had moved it when “tidying up”, but because that overcoat thing meant nothing to her, she didn’t keep a memory of where she put it.
When me or my wife can’t find something we like to say “I remember putting it in a very smart place” or “it must be in a very smart place”.
“Logical place” was my mom’s legendary hidden spot.
Remember where you looked first and put it there when you find it.
Not everything can go on the kitchen counter
Gonna need bigger counter…
Better everything goes on the counter than things just slide into corners and under blankets and behind a rack of spices for some reason.
Try me.
you assume after finding it, i remember where i looked first? usually I forget midway, what I’m looking for.
Me too 😭 ADHD is a bitch. It worked the other day though, maybe 4/10 times overall.
Hey! That’s above average, AFAICS! 🥳
That’s a tip I got from Adam Savage. The item lives where you first thought went. Works surprisingly well for me as someone who commonly forgets where I leave things.
Except, the memory of such a place is also dance partners with several other, similar notions, and only they can hear the music.
That only works if your brain can grasp the concept of things having a proper place, which I assure you my wife’s brain does not.
Only if it’s something new that doesn’t have categorically correct spot. If you put it in the “wrong” spot it’s going to leave the visible universe for us and you better be there every time we need it. LOL
I lost a butt plug for 8 months because the safe spot was a giant container of condoms. I only found it because it glows in the dark and I thought the container was haunted when I woke up after a 2 hour nap.
Midway through reading the first line of your comment I was extremely worried
Always always always have a flared base.
Proportionate to one’s own, ofc.
Not always guaranteed even with that, be careful folks, I barely escaped an embarrassing trip to the ER.
Try a lanyard?
Lol good idea
Ha ha, I as well was worried this story took a dark turn.
I want a glow in the dark butt plug! That sounds awesome.
I got mine from a local shop, but it looks like there are a bunch of different options available online from the quick search I just did… Mine is glass and kinda looks like this one.
Matrix like, it’s cool
New opportunities for uranium glass
It’s safe, though. Uranalium™ has been deeply tested for safety.
OTOH, one of the few coping techniques I’ve found to be helpful is when I absolutely MUST not lose something, especially to take with me somewhere on the next day, to loudly proclaim “I’m going to lose this thing, so I’m putting it here so I know where the fuck I lost it” - and making a big deal about it usually helps solve that problem.
…if I do remember that I need it the next day, of course. But more often than not I wake up and remember “I need the thing”. :)
I tend to do similar, but by putting said thing clearly in my path of getting to the things that I can’t actually leave my home without. (eg. keys, shoes, etc.) Even if I don’t have to take the thing outside, all I have to do is (if I still somehow forget where it is) take a moment to regroup by going on a walk —which the pup is all too happy to lobby for any given moment. 🤘🏼
That’s when I put the thing with my keys, so I’m forced to see it when I go to leave. Doesn’t work when the thing I need to remember is refrigerated, though. (I forget to bring lunch so often, my work locker is full of back-up snacks.)
I’ll put my keys on top of my lunch in the fridge, because then I can’t leave without remembering my lunch.
The problem comes when I am going out of my mind looking for my keys, screaming that I’m going to be late, until I finally remember that I made lunch, and the keys are with it.
Late is momentary, whereas hangry can be all day. 😅
Your technique is my technique. For things that can’t wait by the door, I use whatever object will jog my memory. Fork for lunch, helmet for bike, charging cable for devices, etc.
I always check the floor next to the piano last.
The true lesson is people with ADHD shouldn’t have a collection of rocks based on the alphabet. So what if Z is missing. It looked nothing like a Z. Get over it. Maybe it is actually somewhere around here though. I’m tired now. Yo, where’s the Z shaped rock? Now I’m extremely tired. Finally. But that rock? Oh well. Zzzzzz
Where’s that freaking Z shaped rock??? Let’s build a new one!!!
A z-shaped rock? Sounds made up, but I hope not! 🤩
Fuck. Now I need this.
