I have no idea what there is not to understand about this…and why it’s mostly men complaining about “protecting women’s spaces”, lol.

This might upset some people, and you know what? Good.
If this upsets you, at least the others will know and the trash can take itself out.

  • Flukeyfox@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 day ago

    Yeah exactly! I’ve always tried to be mindful that not everyone who has possibly transphobic views are necessarily a “transphobe”, and may just be someone that’s misinformed… in an information bubble that’s designed from the start to be against us.

    I’ve always been open to talking with people who are a bit “eh” on it, and always try to be respectful… As long as they can do the same. I feel as though a lot of people are willing to listen, and even if they don’t immediately agree with everything, it still helps to introduce a different perspective and new information that they can think on and further look into in the future.

    The entire topic is tangled in hatred, suspicion and purposeful dehumanisation of us… It can be hard for the average person to untangle from that if it’s all the info they know, so we have to reconnect on a human level

    If everyone is immediately prickly when someone says something misguided, it won’t solve anything, it just drives us all further into our own echo chambers… Though I can understand why some are immediately prickly to transphobic comments… We deal with enough abuse that it can get too much and defensive walls get built to protect ourselves. It’s why we need cis allies to speak out more alongside us because the trans community can’t be the only ones standing up against this billionaire-funded behemoth of a campaign… It just won’t work out. I love stuff like the Not in Our Name collective in the UK for this same reason, it just needs a more attention as most don’t know of it.

    Those driving this hate campaign want us to not talk to each other, and look at each other from large deep chasms, because that’s how they drive the wedge further in. So I try to communicate with those at least willing to have a civil conversation even if it may be a bit uncomfortable sometimes.

    Of course, if someone is just straight up an a-hole and it’s clear they aren’t willing to be civil and want to just hate and attack, then yeah they are definitely a transphobe and I just stay clear of them lol

    Also sorry for the long rambles - I’m prone to it sometimes 😅