So by the logic of “beauty standards”…I should starve myself, curl my hair, get a tan, cut off both my feet to lose height and then remove all of my ribs to get an hourglass figure? You know…can’t argue with that 🙃
Gladly…would
(except maybe the tan part, I really like being pale 😭)
Close, but its actually “whatever sells you a solution”.
That is exactly what ‘beauty standards’ are. Unobtainable. How otherwise could they constantly sell you stuff to ‘improve’ your look? Fashion, beauty, fitness, wellness sales are 100% dependent on you being convinced to hate yourself enough to buy, buy, buy.
How exactly do you “look whiter”?
There are products designed to whiten skin. They’re popular in India, and probably more places (I only know about it in India because I learned about them from reading an article about India specifically.)
Have to market products somehow.
It’s a selection bias. The only unsolicited comments about your body are from mean people.
Spray tans look bad IMO but technically its less harmful than tanning beds which are just dumb, literally just inducing UV damage. Faster skin aging and cancer risk increase, sounds really appealing.
Curly and straight hair are both great. Hell I like messy hair and short cuts on women. Admittedly, I couldn’t pull off short hair right now…
Gaining or losing weight is arguably a red herring, how hot you look has more to do with exercise and eating healthy consistently but not crash diets. Losing too much weight too quickly will make anyone (man or woman) look like a ghoul and gaining a ton of weight by eating garbage and not exercising generally looks pretty bad obviously.
I wonder if this is related to the IKEA effect. It was shown that people value something more highly if they helped creating it, like assembling IKEA furniture. Similarly it could be that people like their look better if they actively helped creating it instead of staying how they looked naturally.
Well, sure. Nobody should be proud of something they got by birth, and I do think beauty as something you DO or even buy is more egalitarian than a standard based on heredity, where you can just lose or win and can’t change it.
Overall I have seen the ideal of beautiful get much more varied and diverse over my lifetime, which is nice, too.
Then why do I fucking hate IKEA
That’s a pretty interesting idea, something relating to self determination I imagine.
Creating demand is a centerpiece of a Western world since about Edward Bernays.
Thank you. As a plus-sized girl, this is something that I really needed to see tonight. I’ve been feeling very ugly & disgusting because of my weight.
As someone who is married to a plus-size lady, I can assure you that anyone judging you for that is not worth the time of day. Be comfortable with who you are, if you want to change yourself in any way then do it because you want to, not because of irrelevant dillweeds.
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Some of us vastly prefer plus sized girls.
Can confirm ⬆️ Even more people prefer people that are comfortable with who they are, irrelevant of size ✌️
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Being plus-sized is not a flaw and I hate how badly society treats plus-sized people. That’s disgusting, the shame and fatphobia society directs against plus-sized people…it’s really extreme.
You’re neither ugly nor disgusting. I see you and appreciate you. I hope you are well 🩷
Thank you. <3
I feel a lot better when I am able to go to the gym regularly, but I haven’t been able to go in months because I just can’t afford it since I’m try to go back to school (college) and books are hella expensive.
I am trans, and my goal is to look as trans as possible. Take that society!
How’s the blahaj collection coming along?
Women with brown/black hair are encouraged to dye their hair to look more “unique”.
Women with blonde hair are encouraged to dye their hair to avoid blonde jokes.
Women with red hair are encouraged to dye their hair to avoid ginger jokes.
It’s about making women have low self esteem and always willing to change ourselves to meet expectations. It makes it easier to get us to submit in other ways.
While also selling solutions to “problems.” Meta platforms in particular have set up their advertising algorithms to know when women are feeling bad about themselves based on their posts, to sell cosmetics
Yeah. I honestly hate it more and more each day :/
Being comfortable with one’s self is attractive
I feel like that’s some serious question?
It is like that coz some wants profits.
It is not enough to sell beauty products, as once achieved, income could drop - You need to pursuit another beauty. And poof, we have a fashion.
Nah, it was still not enough, so, they started to make You feel ugly, so spend more. Follow all these photoshopped ai enhanced pictures from ads everywhere, unreachable standard. Spend.
Fuck it, ignore standard, go get beauty in self from self (whatever that mean, rarely someone can judge self as “good enough” or “damn pretty enough”).
If you take a mathematical average of all women or all men, you get someone out that is quite attractive. A few parameters are deemed more beautiful at the extremes, but if you are: neither overweight nor starving, have slightly wavy hair, are of medium height, have averaged away all illnesses… you’re starting from a good place.
